6. The Control Freak
He always needs to know where you are to make sure he doesn’t bump into you when he is with someone else. He loves to control you, but you will never share information where he’s at.
Cheating gives him a sense of control over his life and helps him feel better if he suspects you may be cheating on him. If he cheats on you first, he’ll win the game.
I got really tired of sharing info about who I am with, what we’re doing, where I go out for drinks, etc. Then one time I lied about my location, and guess what?! I stumbled upon him kissing another woman.
7. The Born Rebel
He doesn’t believe in monogamy, values freedom and regular relationships make him feel “suffocated”. He can’t stay committed and he will cheat out of rebellion.
He might also have “Peter Pan syndrome” and walk through life without responsibilities or a need to settle down. Cheating gives him a sense of freedom.
I always needed to take care of him and remind him of his responsibilities until I got tired and found out he’d been way too close to a girl who he’d been surf coaching.
8. The Lost Soul
This man is not cheating to satisfy his self-centered need but because he doesn’t know who he is and feels lost. Cheating helps him resolve his own identity issues and gives him a sense of belonging.
The pursuit for meaning will take him to another woman’s arms but he will again feel lost. How did I end up here? What was I thinking? Similar questions will flood his mind.
After I caught him cheating he started a long semi-philosophical tirade about life and relationships. I just left.
