We all had cheaters in our lives. I remember thinking: “What did I do to deserve this?” A few times I thought it was my mistake. Maybe I wasn’t there for him when he needed me, maybe I was distant occasionally, maybe this, maybe that…
To tell you the truth, it was never about me!
You can be the most devoted wife or girlfriend and still be cheated on. His own drawbacks are almost always the reason why he’s unfaithful.
If you find your man on this list, you better run girl! Don’t stay, unless you want to be hurt.
1. The Insecure Validation Seeker
He lacks self-esteem and no matter how loving and affectionate you may be, he’ll always need approval and confirmation from the outside. This type of man will cheat only to feel attractive and good about himself. Flirting and sleeping with other women is his form of self-validation.
Also, men who are financially dependent on their spouses, tend to feed their self-confidence by cheating. Affair helps him fill the imaginary gaps in his validation.
My insecure ex was very mysterious, always keeping his phone in his pocket. He would also seem distant and emotionally unavailable at times. I thought he was just introverted, until I realized he’d been sleeping with another woman.
2. The Womanizer
He’s charming and extroverted but at the same has a fragile ego. Serial flirting and seducing women empower him and help him fill the void in his self-image.
Womanizing can be so addictive that it makes him selfish, caring only about his satisfaction. That’s why he never learns to connect with women on a deeper level.
Having power over other women is way more interesting than being committed to his relationship. Also, a long-term relationship doesn’t satisfy his need for novelty.
I’ve dated this type of cheater until I realized he only finds joy in new encounters. After three dates I wasn’t as exciting as a new woman passing by.
3. The Opportunist
He’s cheating for the mere opportunity to feel excited and thrilled when he can’t get caught. Even when in a fulfilling relationship he will just follow this irresistible impulse.
If he’s going for a vacation with his buddies or needs more alone time he might be the opportunist cheater.
I was on a long business trip and got home earlier than planned. Guess what I found in our bedroom?
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